Episode #184: Adorning the Exterior of Your Home

This week, we’re speaking about easy methods to make the skin of your property feel and appear as cozy as the within of your property. Plus, we now have a listener query about easy methods to deal with a contractor who isn’t doing the job proper.

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Present Notes:


Entrance Door: 

Home windows:

Porch Concepts:

  • Wraparound porch
  • Get a swing or daybed swing 
  • Put out just a little desk and chairs
  • Use string lights
  • Put in a hearth
  • Add a TV



  • See what blooms your first yr
  • Perform a little bit at a time

Again patio:



  • Have it match the persona of your property
  • Try Emma’s mailbox magnet


  • Plan forward
  • Everlasting Christmas lights
  • Print out an image of the outside of your home and draw out your plans

Listener Query:

What are your ideas, methods, experiences, and concepts for coping with contractor points, particularly as girls? 

  • Learn Elsie’s weblog about Suggestions for Hiring a Contractor
  • Maintain bothering them
  • Give your self a pep discuss afterward
  • Ask your loved ones and associates for his or her opinions

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Episode 184 Transcript:

Elsie: You’re listening to The Lovely Mess Podcast, your cozy consolation hear. This week we’re speaking about easy methods to make the skin of your property feel and appear as cozy as the within of your property. Plus, we now have a listener query about easy methods to deal with a contractor who isn’t doing their job proper. My favourite topic. Okay, so somebody DMed me they usually mentioned, that is so cute. I can’t cease excited about it. So at our new home in Missouri, they mentioned that they used to reside sort of subsequent door to it or one thing. And that at one level within the Nineties, they noticed an enormous marriage ceremony hosted there within the yard. It was proper after our Father of the Bride episode got here out. And so they simply needed to inform me they usually mentioned it was actually magical. It had lights, it had tents, it had all of the issues and I want I may see it. I like the concept of nonetheless throwing some sort of, it doesn’t must be a marriage, however some sort of big celebration there. Perhaps a marriage, possibly one thing else sometime, but it surely made my coronary heart really feel so many issues.

Emma: That’s so cute. That’s the sweetest DM ever. You additionally haven’t proven the home very a lot so I completely consider that they did reside subsequent door cuz to ensure that them to have the ability to like, acknowledge it from what you’ve got shared they have to actually know this home. 

Elsie: Yeah. The neighborhood, everybody sort of is aware of after I was strolling across the neighborhood final time, I used to be there, Each single individual that talked to me was like, so that you’re shifting into that home?

Emma: It’s a close-knit space. 

Elsie: Yeah. So anyway, this episode is all about adorning the outside of your property. I’m so excited to do ours. So I like the way in which that exterior appears, however I feel it has much more potential that may be unlocked. And I positively assume yours as effectively. So Emma’s home, she’s at the moment doing her exteriors, like portray, renovation, and stuff. And she or he has an enormous yard that she’s saving for later, so I can’t wait to see what you soar into that ultimately, like what you do of it. 

Emma: Yeah, so we will discuss paint as a result of really as we’re recording this, we had been presupposed to get our brick lime washed this week, but it surely didn’t work out as a result of they must have three days of no rain in order that the paint can remedy correctly. And this week it was sort of on and off within the forecast of just a little little bit of rain. So we’re hoping for subsequent week, however this time of yr it rains on and off pretty regularly, so it may even be one other month, who is aware of? However I’m very excited when it does occur as a result of we now have a principally white, home, however then we now have just a little little bit of brick, and so we’re gonna get that lime washed. So lime wash, it may possibly imply a whole lot of various things. So for us, what we’re wanting is the place you sort of see the brick just a little bit. You continue to see that there’s purple brick underneath there. It’s nearly sort of like a cloudy look. It’s very cottage core, shabby stylish, it’s sort of that sort of factor. And for us, we don’t have tons of brick. It’s not the entire home, so it’s sort of gonna be an accent. So I really feel prefer it’s gonna be a pleasant juxtaposition with the white siding we now have, which appears fairly plain and boring, simply being sincere. It’s like fairly boring. So I really feel like this can give it sort of one thing. In the intervening time, it’s similar to very purple brick and it’s just a bit an excessive amount of visible distinction for my eyes, and in addition inform you it simply doesn’t actually appear to have any type. So I’m very excited for this lime washing. However once more, may have occurred this week, didn’t occur due to the climate. We’ll see. I’m hoping for subsequent week. May even be a month although. Who is aware of? 

Elsie: So portray brick, it’s positively a regional factor. So the place I grew up in Missouri, I feel individuals are sort of beginning to do it now just a little bit extra, however individuals used to essentially villainize and it’s positively a cold and hot subject, however there’s lots of people who assume that it’s like actually dangerous to color a brick dwelling.

However after I moved to Nashville, I used to be seeing it in every single place. Simply everybody paints their brick houses right here, it’s very extraordinarily frequent. In order that was what gave me the braveness to do it for the primary time. After which after that, I by no means turned again, I paint a brick dwelling on a regular basis now. On my first two homes, I painted them with standard latex paint. Within the final home that we painted, we used Roman bio paint, which is a non-toxic, environmentally pleasant mineral paint. And the factor that’s cool about it’s that lots of people will say you shouldn’t paint homes as a result of then the brick can’t breathe, and with this paint, it’s like portray brick with a layer of white brick. So it’s the identical materials and your home can nonetheless breathe. So it lasts longer, it’s extra sustainable. The factor that’s robust about it although, is it’s tougher to discover a painter who needs to make use of that materials as a result of it’s not as frequent. So anyway, I’ll hyperlink that within the weblog, if anybody’s curious. However yeah, I feel that portray a home is among the finest issues you are able to do for curb attraction, I like to recommend it. So the pink home is a wooden home, possibly it’s wooden siding, I’m unsure, after which our new dwelling is sort of a clapboard home, so it’s wooden. In order that they’re each painted already and part of proudly owning these homes is that it’s a must to preserve them painted and sustain with it. It’s an necessary a part of the upkeep of proudly owning a woodhouse. So with our pink home, we determined to do a press release colour as a result of initially, it suits into the neighborhood. There have been already a whole lot of homes within the neighborhood that had just a little little bit of colour. It’s not like Charleston, but it surely’s positively much more than every other neighborhood in our hometown. Identical to homes with just a little little bit of colour, just a little bit extra risk-taking is the suitable phrase, however just a bit bit extra of an open-minded vibe. Individuals all the time ask me if the neighbors hated it. I by no means heard of anybody who hated it, however I’m certain somebody most likely didn’t prefer it. I don’t know as a result of it’s pink. It’s a pink home, but it surely’s not the one pink home, I don’t assume, is it? 

Emma: I don’t assume it’s. No. It’s the one one in every of that individual pink, however no, I can consider one different that’s like a pink home and it’s the one which’s in heavy disrepair anyway. Anyway, there’s at the very least one different pink one which I may consider. 

Elsie: And in addition pink is a historic dwelling colour. It’s a extra frequent dwelling colour from the times of outdated, that’s additionally why I needed to do it. So anyway, I believed it was enjoyable. It was simply a chance as a result of it’s very small. What do you name it? Like a bungalow-style home. So it simply sort of made sense. It match prefer it felt good for our new dwelling since it’s the clapboard and it’s already white, I actually simply can’t think about it every other colour. So I feel that I’m fairly certain it that may all the time preserve it white. However who is aware of? By no means say by no means. However a chance for portray on the outside is unquestionably the porch for the time being. The porch must be repainted actually badly. It’s across the entrance steps space, if you first stroll up, it’s like actually chipping off. So I do know that’s one in every of our first tasks that we have to do. So I discovered this principal colour known as Dorian Grey, so I used to be excited about utilizing that. You recognize, I’ve my Dorian Grey factor. If I wanna do a impartial colour, or I may perform a little extra of a enjoyable colour, I don’t know.

Emma: Yeah. Didn’t you say lots of people informed you to color it blue, to inform the ghost to go away? 

Elsie: Okay. So it’s, it’s a Southern factor that for those who paint your porch ceiling blue. So if you look on Pinterest at porches, wraparound porches, and porch decorations, you’ll see numerous porches with a painted blue ceiling, and now I sort of know why. I don’t know if that’s the one motive, or if some individuals possibly simply see it they usually’re like, oh, that’s a cute colour, I’ll do mine that approach too. Yeah, however I initially don’t actually need a blue ceiling. However second of all, I’m not likely afraid of ghosts. So for those who see me portray my porch ceiling blue although, now you’ll know that one thing actually bizarre occurred. You’d be like, we have to ship her some flowers. 

Emma: She’d be like, it was between this and an exorcism. So I’m portray it blue. 

Elsie: Yeah. Our solar porch was really, the ceiling was painted a teal blue once we moved in. However we painted over it white simply to, I don’t know, I simply needed it to be all white. I simply didn’t wanna have a press release ceiling in there. Yeah. Anyway, let’s keep centered on the outside trigger that’s what this episode is about. 

Emma: Yeah. Nicely, alongside portray exteriors, let’s discuss one other necessary exterior factor that you just paint typically, entrance doorways. 

Elsie: Okay. So the assertion entrance door is such a enjoyable subject, and I’m excited to speak about this. So, initially, I like assertion entrance doorways, I’ve had them in nearly all of my houses. I feel on my first dwelling we did a traditional black entrance door. After which after that, I used to be like we had a pink door after which we had a blue door, after which now we now have one other pink door after which we had a inexperienced door. So I like the assertion entrance door. I feel it’s very enjoyable. I simply assume it’s good. However the one factor I’ll say is there’s this one home in our neighborhood proper now the place after I all the time attempt to battle, I’m like, oh, the assertion door doesn’t match the home although. You recognize what I imply? So that you do must mix it with what your home already is. Should you’re not gonna paint the entire home, you do must sort of settle for your home for what it’s and decide a colour that’s cohesive with that, I feel. 

Emma: That’s what I feel too. I’ll say if it’s your home and you haven’t any HOA in your again, do no matter you need. If it makes you content to color it, that one teal that you just actually love, despite the fact that it doesn’t go together with the remainder of the home, that’s nice. Go for it. Yeah, to me it’s like sort of a missed alternative after I see one which simply doesn’t, as a result of I’m like, there’s so many colours that might work and also you picked the one which doesn’t actually match. So it appears like this door doesn’t belong to this home, which is ok. It’s your home, no matter. However I’m gonna go on my stroll and I’m gonna decide your entrance door. So simply know that’s taking place.

Elsie: In our new home, we now have a display door, so I would paint the entrance door, however I really feel prefer it received’t actually be as a lot of a factor to have a look at from the skin due to the, it’s like a wooden display door, it’s like a really traditional, like a southern door. I adore it, I feel it’s sensible as a result of it’s like mosquito land and stuff. I’m excited about portray the within of the entrance door. However yeah, I feel if I wanna have like a enjoyable assertion door, I would do like our little pottery shed within the yard. I would do a aspect door, I would do one thing else, I feel.

Emma: Yeah, and we’ve had painted entrance doorways previously too. Most likely my favourite was we had this yellow door on the primary dwelling that Tray and I lived in collectively. And I painted it with my associates in the future and it was actually enjoyable. So at the moment we simply have this type of trendy wooden door that has frosted panels and we simply received it from Lowe’s. It’s not likely something all that particular, to be sincere, but it surely appears very nice. Our door earlier than had an enormous crack in it, the door that got here with the home and we simply weren’t actually in love with the type of it anyway. And like I mentioned, the window was tremendous cracked so we changed it with that. And I’m having them, every time they do the outside of the home, we’re sort of matching the wooden. We’re including panels of wooden underneath a number of the home windows. Virtually like a planter field, but it surely’s not really a planter field cuz I’ve no inexperienced thumb by any means. And I’ll by no means put crops in them as a result of they are going to simply die as a result of I don’t know what I’m doing. So it’s similar to a bit of wooden, however visually I feel it would learn sort of like a planter field with out flowers and it simply matches the entrance door. Due to that, I’ve no plan to color our entrance door ever. I simply plan to maintain it the wooden that it’s and it appears actually fairly. It’s like a very nice wooden and it’s been sealed so you possibly can actually see all of the wooden grain and it’s actually fairly. 

Elsie: However yeah, only for the file, we’re pro-statement door. Do decide one thing that likes vibes with your home, however I feel it’s magical. I feel it’s a type of enjoyable moments in life like one of many issues that householders get to do this’s actually particular.

Emma: Yeah. And for those who’re a seasonal wreath particular person, which I’m, then you definitely do have to think about your entrance door because the backdrop for all of your seasonal wreaths. So I’d assume that by. So ensure that it’s gonna go effectively along with your Halloween wreath and your Christmas wreath. Perhaps you don’t care, however I do. 

Elsie: That’s how I make all of my dwelling choices. I by no means decide with out considering of the way it will look throughout Halloween and Christmas as a result of it’s so necessary to me and I stretch them out for at the very least an additional month every. Okay, the opposite factor I like for entrance doorways is selecting a classic knocker, I’ve talked about this earlier than. I selected one for my new home already. I select one for each dwelling, they usually’re all sort of not humorous, however they’ve a persona to them as a result of there are classic brass, tits. There are such a lot of completely different ones you could find. I feel our first one was a pineapple after which we had a butterfly at one in every of our BMBs and I keep in mind at Casey’s home I did a horseshoe and at my new home, I’m doing the bat. I’m doing a brass bat, it’s magical. It’s sort of a enjoyable custom that I like to do like choosing the door knocker. 

Emma: Yeah, at my Harry Potter home in Florida, which we not personal, however there may be an owl brass knocker as a result of you realize, Harry Potter. 

Elsie: Okay, so for home windows, initially, do you want shutters? Are you a shutter particular person? 

Emma: I like shutters. We don’t have them and I don’t really need them, however I like taking a look at them. 

Elsie: Lots of people have requested me if I’d add shutters to our new home as a result of it sort of appears just like the film homes that I all the time put, that it sort of appears like each have black shutters. However I really assume our home isn’t meant to have shutters the dimensions of the home windows is I feel it’s greater than you assume. So from what I’ve learn, the one solution to do shutters is to have them be like actual shutters that might actually shut they usually have correct {hardware} they usually’re not like only a ornament, they’re an actual working factor. With the intention to do this, they might be large. So I simply don’t assume that our home wants it or needs it. So right now, I’m nobody shutters, however I do love how they give the impression of being and throughout our neighborhood, there are such a lot of homes with fairly shutters and I feel it’s magical.

Emma: And you’re feeling they must be actual since you would need to use them such as you would need to pull them closed typically. 

Elsie: I imply, you realize, I like my Finish of the World books, so sure. But additionally I feel it’s simply kind of like an authenticity factor for like individuals who like outdated homes, it’s such as you wanna do it the way in which it might’ve been achieved in that period.

Emma: Yeah, I get that. Nicely, as much as you. 

Elsie: I may inform you it’s silly. 

Emma: Yeah, I do. I don’t must say it, however of word on the vacation home, the shutters on the entrance of the home, and on the entrance porch had been positively not actual. They had been positively simply nailed in place and I believed they appeared fairly good.

Elsie: I’m simply saying if I had been gonna do them I’d wanna make them actual functioning shutters. 

Emma: Okay. Nicely, that’s as much as you however I do assume they might look fairly cool. So if the one solution to do it was faux ones, I’m voting in opposition to you, but it surely’s your home. So clearly do no matter you need. 

Elsie: Take a look at it yet one more time in an image, as a result of on the entrance window within the heart to the highest, there’s an oddly formed window and I’m simply unsure how it might work, like for those who simply wouldn’t put the shutters on all of the home windows or it simply sort of appears like it might be just a little bit, I don’t know.

Emma: I’m considering of it extra as purely an aesthetic factor and never you’re going to make use of them in any respect. That’s so we’re most likely simply not considering like we’re not on the identical web page since you like need to use them. In order that’s very completely different as a result of it’s like then they may must be like large or oddly formed relying in your home windows and yeah, that sounds most likely much more costly and probably problematic, however I’m simply considering like cool ones that possibly have like moons carved in ’em or one thing. I don’t know. Or simply black wines. 

Elsie: So that you assume I ought to put shutters on the entrance of the home? 

Emma: Yeah, I do, faux ones. 

Elsie: Subsequent time I discuss to somebody concerning the exterior I’ll ask some questions, I’m curious now. All proper, let’s discuss porches. Porches are all the things to me. So I’ve already talked about this like 85 instances, however I promise you it’s gonna be 85 extra. At our new home, my dream is to make a porch that you would be able to stroll all the way in which round. A literal, all-the-way stroll across the porch. What do you name it, wraparound porch and you’ll really stroll all the way in which round it, a few of it would have doorways, a few of it received’t and a few of will probably be sunrooms. One in all it’s gonna be like an artwork room, a few of will probably be porches. It’s so magical to me. So, yeah I like porches. In our first Nashville home, we had a sunroom and it was positively one of the crucial lovely rooms in the home. It was very photogenic and it was very enjoyable to embellish. However because it was a 3 seasons room and also you couldn’t use it within the winter, it was sort of a bummer a number of the years. So I realized from that have that I’d quite have similar to all the way in which a porch, only a porch as you go on the market, you sit within the recent air, or if it’s a sunroom that’s closed in with home windows, I need it to be like heated and cooled and be like part of the house. In order that’s an enormous precedence for me now. Enjoyable issues about porches, so you are able to do swings, you are able to do just a little desk and chairs. You are able to do the daybed swing. What are a few of your favourite decorations for porches? 

Emma: Yeah. I like a swing. I like a daybed swing. Our porch is sort of unusual in a approach. It’s a correct porch but it surely’s a whole lot of poured cement with a few bushes, like area the place the tree is rising out. It’s like a bonsai tree or one thing, I don’t actually know. And there’s not likely a spot to place a swing, however we used to all the time sit and swing with Oscar when he was a child at our final home. So I sort of miss it, however I don’t even know if he would get pleasure from it anymore. Now he needs to be strolling, we now have his little bike out on the entrance porch, it’s tucked beneath the awning. And this little cozy coop automobile, he likes to get in that and stuff. So I don’t know if we’re gonna do much more to our entrance porch simply because there isn’t actually, it’s not a whole lot of it’s coated. There’s only a small area that’s coated and it’s sort of taken up by Oscar’s automobile and bike proper now. However we sit on the market lots proper now and eat dinner, Oscar loves being outdoors usually. And so we’ll make dinner and take all of it outdoors after daycare and simply sit on the market and eat and he’ll watch vehicles go by. And he likes to level out if it’s a automobile or a truck or no matter. Someday a trash truck honked at us as a result of he was waving and that was, I feel, essentially the most thrilling second of his life, he was so into it. 

Elsie: Oh my gosh, how cute. Yeah. I like porches. So within the neighborhood, we’re shifting in Springfield, there are a whole lot of porches which have string lights and I feel that’s actually charming. It’s not like Christmas lights, it’s all yr spherical. Whenever you stroll round at evening, there’s simply a whole lot of porches which can be lit up with string lights and so I believed that was actually candy. You probably have an opportunity to place a hearth in your porch, I feel that’s epic. Actually a porch with a hearth it’s epic, it’s superb. I’d like to do like a eating desk porch ultimately. I feel that’s actually thrilling for just like the again of the home.

Emma: What do you concentrate on, well-designed and inserting TVs on porches? What are your ideas? 

Elsie: I’m professional TV on a porch as a result of I simply assume if it makes you employ it extra, then it’s good. And I feel that there might need been a time in my life after I was snobby about TVs, however it isn’t now.

Emma: Yeah, I just about agree. We’ve got no place for one, however I’d completely put one simply to look at an episode of one thing and eat breakfast on our porch or one thing. Actually within the night, in the summertime it may be sort of mosquito land, so then it’s a must to actually work out your plan for that. However in the course of the day, within the morning, it tends to be fairly good. 

Elsie: I feel it’s a good suggestion really. If this area requires it and it really works, possibly it might make you employ your porch extra. I feel that’s an important factor as a result of I’ve had porches that we use consistently, and I’ve had ones that we by no means used in any respect. And so I feel simply creating routines that make you constantly use it’s actually necessary. Particularly proper if you first transfer in. So the following half is walkways. So I feel if in case you have an opportunity to replace walkways, driveways, issues like that, that may be an enormous improve. Recently, it’s springtime proper now, in order I’ve been driving round, I’ve seen so many individuals pouring driveways and I’m like, oh, good for you, it’s so cute. So my dream is to have a brick pathway, for the pathway that goes as much as the home after which the pathways that kind of lead round within the again. I simply assume that brick pathways are so cute.

Emma: Oh yeah. A brick pathway is a really magical, very secret backyard. So we now have just a few walkways, I suppose I’ve two issues. One is principally we now have these actually large, beautiful lavender bushes on our again, in between the way you enter our yard and the place the storage is, and final yr they weren’t completely blooming but, however final yr they smelled superb. We didn’t reside in the home but, however we’d come to test it lots. And yeah, they only smelled superb, I don’t know if it’s like edible lavender or not, I’m not likely certain. I’m certain I may determine that out. However I did discover final yr that it had tons of bees and so I’m excited about that this yr. I’m just a little not sure if we’re gonna preserve them as a result of I do assume they scent superior. However Oscar is rather like, that’s a spot he’s at lots as a result of we go out and in of the yard on a regular basis as a result of he’ll wanna play within the yard after which we go within the entrance yard, after which you realize, forwards and backwards fairly a bit. So I’m just a bit involved concerning the variety of bees I noticed. I don’t know if there’s one thing I ought to do for there to be much less bees. I feel bees are necessary, so I don’t actually need to do something that essentially deters them as a result of clearly, they’re simply doing what bees do, however I don’t know, so I’m sort of excited about that. I’m unsure what we’re gonna do that yr. They’re simply beginning to bloom, so we’ll see. But when Oscar and I each get stung a complete bunch, I’ll be like, okay, the place you’ve gotta do one thing.

Elsie: Perhaps there are different crops or I guess our listeners will be capable to provide you with some recommendation on that. That attention-grabbing. 

Emma: Yeah, as a result of I don’t wanna do something to kill the bees or something like that. I’m simply considering we’d transfer the bushes. Truly, a contractor we labored with I already talked about, would completely take them and plant them at his home if we needed. So I used to be like, okay, I have already got somebody, they wouldn’t go to waste, however I’m like, effectively, I don’t know, we’ll see. One other factor I needed to say, that is considerably associated, but it surely’s simply an exterior factor, are we received just a little free library put in, we had a lifeless tree in our entrance yard and once we received it reduce down, we informed them to go away like a four-foot stump and since you may get them to chop it approach down and even grind the stump and I mentioned, no, go away it 4 foot as a result of I’m gonna put just a little free library on high of it. So we now have just a little free library and I’ve seen that individuals within the neighborhood are utilizing it fairly a bit. I’ve gotten various books out of there for Oscar. Each time I put in books, I all the time discover how rapidly they go and it’s all the time the romance novels that go the quickest and I adore it. And I’ve lots to place in there so heads up neighborhood and proper by our little free library we’ve additionally began to make what I name a fairy backyard, but it surely’s principally little ceramic animals that I discover at thrift shops and Oscar and I put them on the market and he simply likes to play with them once we’re on the market they usually’re very breakable. He’s damaged one earlier than as a result of he threw it onto the sidewalk and it cracked and broke and it’s nice as a result of we’re outdoors. So it’s not like inside when glass breaks or one thing, they’re not glass, they’re ceramic. However we now have a monkey and a few canines and a cat and a fish and an owl and when he sees the owl he’ll go, who, who and it’s actually cute. In order that’s our little fairy backyard, I’d actually prefer to make it much more aesthetic and cute sooner or later. However for the time being it’s similar to stuff that Oscar likes and he strikes them round and performs with them whereas we’re on the market and it’s simply enjoyable. Simply makes it just a little vacation spot the place we will stroll on the market and play with him just a little after which go do one thing else and at his age that’s nice. 

Elsie: Magical. Okay, let’s discuss landscaping for a second, as a result of I really feel like that could be a actually necessary a part of curb attraction, it may be an enormous improve. So on our final dwelling we most likely did essentially the most landscaping we’ve achieved as a result of I do know this story earlier than, however after we received our home painted I used to be like, this appears nice. When ought to we take images? And the home painter was like, effectively, I feel that you must remove the entire landscaping and do all new, and I used to be like, What, I had by no means been informed such an enormous process earlier than and it seems he was proper once we did do this job. I keep in mind on the time it felt like such an enormous change. It turned out actually cute. There’s like a whole lot of little tiny boxwood-looking bushes after which we did hydrangeas and we did panes for spring after which we had a spot to do one new tree, so we did like a ginkgo tree as a result of I like the yellow leaves at fall time and it was a really magical expertise and I can’t wait to do it once more. I feel it opened up my thoughts lots to how worthwhile it landscaping might be as a result of it feels sort of daunting and it feels very costly and it is extremely costly. However when you’ve achieved it and seen what an enormous improve it may be, I feel it felt much more value it to me.

Emma: I truthfully felt that approach even about portray the outside of your home. After I was youthful, I believed, oh, I wouldn’t spend the cash on that I’d quite spend the cash I’ve to repair up my home on the within as a result of I’m all the time inside. And I feel for those who’re on a good price range, like yeah, that is sensible, I get it. However after you’ve painted the outside or no matter you’ve achieved, after you’ve achieved one thing to the outside, then you definitely see what an enormous distinction it makes and the sensation it offers you if you pull as much as your home. And in addition for those who spend a whole lot of time in your entrance porch or your yard or no matter, then yeah, you simply sort of come to worth it otherwise, or I’ve, possibly not everybody, however I do. So I may positively see that with landscaping, we sort of have current stuff from the earlier proprietor, numerous bushes and bushes which can be coming again to life now and we’re hibernating all this winter. This yr is basically similar to seeing if all the things comes again, what it’s prefer to attempt to keep it if we’re not capable of, like what are we gonna do in another way to ensure it’s nonetheless enticing, like are we gonna exchange this or that? In order that’s actually all we’re doing this yr is making an attempt to determine like, what is that this deal with? What are these bushes? Will they keep alive this summer season? I don’t know. So we’re simply gonna do our greatest and see. 

Elsie: Completely. Yeah. I feel giving it just a little little bit of time to similar to see what blooms your first spring is basically good as a result of it could possibly be shocking. Should you first see it when all the things’s lifeless, there is perhaps a whole lot of perennials that you just don’t even find out about. Yeah. It’s very enjoyable although, I feel for those who’ve by no means achieved it earlier than and also you’re gonna do it on your first time, my recommendation is to simply be inspired, and perform a little bit at a time. It’s value it for me, at first it felt prefer it was within the boring money-to-spend class for home stuff. However ultimately, I sort of got here to understand it and adore it, so now I’m excited to do extra. The subsequent one is the again patio. So I feel that your again porch can actually be the center of your property. My favourite approach to make use of it or the way in which for it to be is that if your kitchen will let loose into your backspace. I feel that’s like superb. That’s the way it’s been at our dwelling in Tennessee and it simply made it actually cozy as a result of it’s your outside kitchen is subsequent to your indoor kitchen and your outside eating is subsequent to your kitchen and it simply all sort of suits collectively very well. So for those who’re planning an area from scratch, I’d actually suggest that. Clearly not each home is gonna have that. Our first home in Tennessee had this, it’s so random, however the kitchen was within the very entrance of the home. There was no potential approach that it may ever join in any approach and it was all the time at the back of my thoughts after I lived there. Anyway, let’s discuss a few concepts for how one can improve your again patio. So I simply received new porch furnishings for our new home and I didn’t know, so have you learnt the model Trex, they make like decking that you just by no means have to switch. So I came upon that they make tables and I received a type of tables. I’m actually enthusiastic about it as a result of I don’t know what number of instances previously, which is my very own fault, however I’d get a really cheap wooden desk from Goal or one thing the place I’d put a desk on the market that basically shouldn’t be on the market after which a season or two later it’s like fully trashed.

Emma: I would purchase a type of then as a result of we at the moment don’t have a again patio and we don’t actually have any coated space in our yard in any respect. And we simply don’t actually have the cash to do like an enormous pour cement and large awning and we don’t actually have the price range for that proper now. However I’d actually like to put a desk again there as a result of Oscar and I’ll sit again there and eat dinner and Trey too, it’s not like Trey’s not round. The routine is I decide him up from college, so we eat not likely even dinner, however like snacks and it’s simply me and him after which Trey comes dwelling. However anyway, this most likely seems like my husband’s by no means dwelling. I’m like, no, he’s. He simply comes dwelling about an hour later than me. However yeah, possibly I’ll get a type of tables now that you just’re mentioning it as a result of I’m like, I would like one thing that may sit out within the solar and the climate and received’t get fully ruined as a result of I simply haven’t been motivated to purchase one thing. So I’m like, it’s gonna get fully ruined in a single season as a result of there’s simply no cowl for it, in order that’s an concept. 

Elsie: I’m sort of on the level in my life the place I’m like, I’m not shopping for outside furnishings if it’s not weatherproof and I’m excited to see, I suppose I’ll must see it for a few seasons to see how effectively it wears and like how it’s to scrub up within the spring and issues like that. However yeah, it’s value it to me. I like outside furnishings, however for those who don’t have a coated area, then I feel it’s a must to be much more intentional concerning the stuff you select to place out. 

Emma: You wanna hear our humorous factor about our yard? Again patio. We don’t have a patio as I discussed, we’re getting one for Oscar’s birthday in June, we’re getting him a sandbox as a result of he loves enjoying within the filth and I’m just a little bored with it. So we’re getting the sandbox so he can play in that sandbox as a lot as he needs. And I’m gonna get the sort that has a canopy as a result of we don’t have any cowl again there, so it may be coated up once we’re not enjoying with it. However I’m actually excited. I feel he’s gonna adore it. So I’m actually enthusiastic about it. 

Elsie: That’s a enjoyable concept. I like that. Let’s discuss concerning the yard for just a little bit. Oh my gosh. Yard. So I’ve realized a lot, I really feel like, so our first home in Tennessee had this big yard. All it had in it was playhouses. So it was just about like an acre of yard that you just simply mow and I realized from that have that I needed a extra concise yard, that was helpful. It’s nice to have an enormous yard if it’s helpful, however I didn’t wanna simply have an enormous yard that was similar to a garden mowing invoice or no matter. After which in our present dwelling, we now have really a fairly small yard, our Tennessee dwelling, feels prefer it’s principally the swimming pool. Yeah. After which there are a few aspect yards which can be just a little bit awkward to get to. In order that they actually don’t get used a lot, they don’t get performed a lot. So if our youngsters play outdoors, they often play within the entrance of the home, like within the driveway and stuff, and within the again within the pool space. Most likely one of many smallest yards we’ve had. Not a whole lot of play area. I felt like we received a lot out of it as a result of it was well-planned. It had an out of doors eating desk. We had the cornhole recreation, which our youngsters love. We had a fireplace pit, which they love. It was very helpful and practical. So it taught me that we don’t really want an enormous yard, we simply want a very well-planned yard. So with our new dwelling, I’m making an attempt to be very cautious within the planning. So yeah, I’ve been getting my swimming pool quote. Everybody, cross your fingers for me as a result of I’m terrified. I simply assume that if you reside in the course of the nation, swimming swimming pools are costlier as a result of they’re simply not as frequent and there will not be as many firms to select from and it’s simply not as aggressive. However yeah, we’re planning for that. A fireplace pit, I’d prefer to have some sort of play area, however I wanna be certain that it’s gonna get used lots. And I’d prefer to have some sort of yard that’s open to run in, however not lots, similar to the correct amount. So yeah, that’s my plan for the time being. I’ve redrawn it like 100 instances so simply to encourage anybody who’s shifting to a brand new area or planning your yard, you possibly can’t overthink it. Actually, actually take into consideration like how all the things can join collectively as a result of it’s so a lot better to plan it again and again earlier than you’ve spent any cash than to start out doing it and have regrets. 

Emma: Oh yeah, I agree. And yeah, we don’t have any large plans for our yard for the time being. We sort of must get our fence changed, but it surely’s gonna be like 20 to $30,000. So, we’ve sort of been placing it off. We’ve got a fence and it’s nice, however our canine retains discovering methods to flee and he by no means runs away. He similar to waits on the entrance door however he’ll sort of terrorize different people who find themselves strolling with their canines as a result of he’s not nice with different canines, that’s not good. So we’re simply making an attempt to assume that by. We even have his dream, I’d like to get a golf cart. Our neighborhood’s very windy and it’s a terrific place for teenagers to experience their bikes and stuff. Individuals don’t actually drive by tremendous quick, it’s simply very windy. So anyway, you can positively drive a golf cart round our neighborhood and get to the neighborhood pool from our home. You may positively stroll, however it might take some time and for those who’re with just a little child and you’ve got a bunch of stuff like pool stuff, you’re not gonna do this. So I sort of thought the golf cart could possibly be nice for going to the pool in the summertime with Oscar. I even have this dream with the golf cart that possibly I may do some sort of spooky hay experience or some sort of spooky, everybody hops on the little prepare, we’re going trick-or-treating across the neighborhood with the golf cart and it may appear like a monster. I may adorn, I don’t know. I don’t precisely know, however I simply really feel like there’s one thing there that could possibly be enjoyable however our drawback is we don’t know the place to retailer the golf cart. We’ve got a two-car storage and we every have a automobile. So our storage isn’t actually large enough that we may put the golf cart in there.

So we don’t actually know the place it might go, as a result of we wouldn’t need it to simply be sitting out on a regular basis. So it must go within the yard someplace, but it surely must be one thing at the very least coated, if not just a little construction. In order that’s kind of the place we cease is we’re like, we don’t understand how the golf cart’s gonna get taken care of, be saved when it’s not in use. So then we simply sort of dunno what to do with that. I’ll determine it out sometime. I’m gonna be driving round and the golf cart’s gonna be dressed like a monster for Halloween. I don’t know. In order that we will trick or deal with.

Elsie: Maintain considering in that path. I positively assume it’s a cute concept. The very last thing is a mailbox. So I had a mid-century mailbox in one in every of our homes, and I keep in mind, I felt prefer it was such a splurge on the time. And now we now have an antiquey wanting mailbox at our new home. I simply assume mailboxes, like why not make them match the persona of your property? I feel that’s very candy. 

Emma: Oh yeah, I agree. Ours is this type of steel and swings open proper outdoors our entrance door and I adore it. I don’t plan to switch it for the time being, however I’ll say although, you know the way if you put mail in on your mail service pickup, you flip up a flag often. A typical mailbox has a flag.

Elsie: Do it’s a must to use an in depth pin on the skin or one thing? 

Emma: Yeah, it has to have one thing like that. So I went on-line and I used to be like, effectively there’s gotta be some resolution for this, I’ve seen mailboxes like this earlier than. I’ve by no means had one, however there’s one thing and so I appeared round and principally what it has proper now could be this little tiny plastic flag that you would be able to push out or shut and it’s on the mailbox with a command strip and it’s labored. Nevertheless it requires you to very rigorously open and shut it and the mail service is closing it and I don’t know her or him, however they’re doing nothing flawed, it’s not nice. It’s not a terrific resolution, the command strip, as a result of it’s additionally like instructions strips are nice. Should you’ve heard me say it when you’ve heard it a thousand instances. I like command strips. However they’re not all the time nice outdoor. It could get very chilly right here, with freezing temperatures. It’s additionally very moist at instances. And this summer season it’ll get actually scorching. So I’m simply looking for one other resolution and principally on Amazon, I noticed these little magnets that like say, oh, cute, decide up the mail. And so that you simply put the magnet on the skin. Of the steel after which they will simply put it on the within as soon as they’ve picked up the mail. And so I purchased a type of and it hasn’t are available but, however I’m actually enthusiastic about it. It has just a little image of a mail truck on it. It’s a tiny bit tacky, however I simply really feel prefer it’s gonna be a very good resolution for the kind of mailbox we now have as a result of there’s been various instances I wanted one thing to exit and the mail service didn’t understand I had one thing within the field and it didn’t exit and that’s sort of a bummer. 

Elsie: That’s tremendous annoying. That’s a cute concept. Okay, effectively good. We’ll must hyperlink that within the present notes as a result of I guess there’s somebody on the market, that’s additionally the right resolution. 

Emma: Yeah, somebody ought to begin promoting his on Etsy in the event that they haven’t already as a result of they’re actually cute they usually’re similar to magnets.

Elsie: Okay. The final a part of adorning the outside of your property that I needed to speak about is Halloween and Christmas. I feel that planning forward for that is important. I’ve mentioned this many instances for those who’re landscaping your home or no matter you’re doing, it’s a must to take into consideration how the Christmas lights are gonna work together with that and the skeletons and all of that. So one thing attention-grabbing, our pal Sarah from the Chicken’s Papaya, received everlasting Christmas lights placed on her home. Like that keep on all yr spherical. Did you see that? 

Emma: That’s what I’ve. 

Elsie: Oh my gosh. Do you’ve got them too? 

Emma: I simply don’t flip ’em on all yr.

Elsie: That’s cool. Are you able to see them? 

Emma: Yeah, you possibly can see them like so far as like for those who’re standing outdoors of my home like they’re not turned on, you simply see there are bulbs. 

Elsie: You simply don’t care?

Emma: No, why would I care? 

Elsie: That’s actually interesting to me as a result of I simply don’t wanna pay somebody to place them up and down yearly. However I do need them yearly. 

Emma: Ours isn’t very elaborate. I really feel like I can flip them on all winter. They don’t spell out Merry Christmas or Ho Ho Ho or something like that. So for those who needed one thing actually elaborate, possibly it wouldn’t be nearly as good of an answer. Yeah. I feel most individuals go away their Christmas lights up all yr. They only don’t flip ’em on. 

Elsie: What, what actually? 

Emma: If it’s not like a coloured factor. They don’t go away like Santa Sleigh up on the roof all yr, however different issues.

Elsie: I’ve by no means needed to do a ballot greater than I do proper now as a result of I assumed that everybody simply took them down.

Emma: Perhaps we should always do a ballot. Perhaps I’m flawed. I don’t know. I may completely be flawed. 

Elsie: I’m very to listen to now, I wanna hear. Please write into us at podcastabeautifulmess.com if in case you have sturdy emotions or experiences about everlasting Christmas lights. Is there a approach that I can go away my Christmas lights up without end? Nevertheless it received’t look dangerous in the summertime. That’s what I wanna know. I’m very inquisitive about this topic. Okay, so that is how I plan Halloween and Christmas. I print off just a little image. You may additionally simply do that in your cellphone, an image of your exterior, after which I simply draw on it. I simply draw on it as many instances as I need and simply sort of plan out like what are all of the alternative ways we may put up the decorations? There are many alternative ways you are able to do it, it’s so enjoyable. One in all my favourite issues is driving round at Christmas and like taking a look at how everybody else does all their Christmas lights, the magic of planning it out, and being artistic. It’s a lot enjoyable. 

Emma: Think about driving round on a golf cart with scorching chocolate, taking a look at all of the neighbor’s Christmas lights.

Elsie: Cease it. Okay, so I’ve to simply say in Jessica Simpson’s memoir, she was speaking about trick or coaching with golf carts, and now I simply assume that you just’re like so fancy. 

Emma: Doesn’t it sound like a star factor? I used to be simply complaining about how a lot cash we have to exchange our canine fence after which I’m like, however we’re gonna get this golf cart. You’ll be able to’t inform my priorities are in every single place. 

Elsie: Okay. Do you wanna learn the listener’s query? 

Emma: Sure, this query was emailed to us from Janie. She says, not too long ago the pipes burst in my New York Metropolis house. I’m younger, single, and reside alone. The development firm employed by the house administration firm was making an attempt to simply paint over mildew and water injury. I needed to regularly battle for the job to be achieved appropriately, for sheetrock to get replaced, and I felt dangerous about it, like responsible for asking for the job to be achieved appropriately. So what are your ideas, methods, experiences, and concepts for coping with points like this, particularly as a younger girl? 

Elsie: All proper, I wanna begin off by saying, I simply wrote a publish not too long ago about easy methods to rent a contractor on A Lovely Mess. So we’ll hyperlink to that, and it has a complete part about coping with sexism as a result of coping with sexism and folks speaking right down to you, sadly, on this business, on this state of affairs is basically dangerous. And I feel that your expertise is quite common. Truthfully, it’s unhappy, however not shocking to listen to that. So yeah, I feel that studying easy methods to arise for your self and to claim your self and in addition get what you need achieved, most significantly are all actually good abilities. Simply coping with the preliminary shock that individuals simply don’t hear or attempt to discuss you out of what you’re asking for or attempt to discuss right down to you, it’s irritating. So do you’ve got any good ideas Em? 

Emma: Nicely, it seems like Janie did precisely what she wanted to do, which was preserve bothering them till it will get achieved the way in which it must get achieved and if you’re speaking about mildew, that’s not a joke. That may mess along with your well being, so this isn’t similar to, oh, the colour’s barely completely different than I believed and I need you to repaint it without spending a dime. It’s like, no, no, no, no, no mildew is a critical difficulty. And in addition you probably did an enormous favor to whoever owns your constructing as a result of now there’s not gonna be mildew rising without end. Feels like she did what she wanted to do, but it surely seems like for Janie and positively, for me, I nearly have to simply give myself just a little pep discuss after I’ve moments like that the place I’m like, hey, it was okay that you just did that. It was okay that you just saved asking them it was okay that you just informed them no. Generally I actually do must nearly discuss out loud to myself and be like, it’s nice that you just known as them again and mentioned this isn’t acceptable, you weren’t unkind. You weren’t imply, you simply mentioned what wanted to be mentioned and that’s okay. Generally I feel that must be one thing in your routine for those who’re the sort of one who feels actually responsible advocating for your self, which I really feel at instances, so I positively get that. After which for those who’re ever like not sure, ask your pals, ask your dad and mom, whoever you’re shut with, for those who’re like, am I being an excessive amount of right here? Test-in as a result of your pals will inform you straight away. If I had a pal be like, do you assume it’s okay for them to color over mildew? I’d be like, no, that you must name them at present since you can’t be residing in a home with mildew like that. You recognize that it’s there. Generally we reside with mildew and we don’t realize it, however you realize. If I had a pal ask me, I’d be like, no, you completely ought to name, it’s good that you just’re calling. It’s good that you just’re checking in. Maintain your self. That is necessary on your well being. So possibly attain out to associates, members of the family, or whoever that you must simply be reassured that the factor you’re asking for is totally applicable to ask for, and so long as you’re not being unkind, like calling somebody a reputation, or threatening them ultimately. These are issues that aren’t applicable, however asking for what you want even a number of instances or considerably forcefully, not yelling, however considerably forcefully is completely applicable and a really grownup and really regular factor to do.

Elsie: Yep. And truthfully, if you wish to do a whole lot of renovations in your life, it’s one thing that it is best to hone as a ability as a result of it’s one thing that you just’ll come again to over and over. All righty. It’s time for our favourite half, A joke or a reality. All proper. Right here’s gold. Gold. Do you’ve got a joke for us at present?

Goldie: The place does a ghost like to buy? A boooo-tique.

Elsie: Good job. You probably did nice. Okay, thanks a lot for listening. You probably have any questions or podcast requests for future episodes. E mail us anytime at [email protected], or you possibly can name our voicemail and go away us a message at 417-893-0011. We’ll be again subsequent week with a deep dive into hobbies.