Episode 176: Discovering Your Private Model (Deep Dive)

This week, we’re sharing a deep dive on our expertise cleansing out and curating our personal closets. We’re additionally sharing how we obtained coloration consults what our greatest colours are. 

Plus, we’re sharing suggestions for locating a mode that felt proper for us.

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Present Notes:

Learn The Curated Closet and take a look at The Curated Closet Workbook.

Take a look at Emma’s weblog publish: 3 Issues I Realized from The Curated Closet

We obtained our coloration consults from createdcolorful.com

Emma’s Colour: Mild Summer season (pale colours like lavender and funky tones)

Elsie’s Colour: Deep Autumn (browns and plum)

Suggestions for Discovering Your Model and Feeling Good:


-Have a look at the clothes, make-up, and kinds you continue to love from OLD images and you will see issues that really feel traditional to you.

– You probably have clothes that you simply put on by default that makes you’re feeling dangerous about your self, let it go.

-Create a temper board on your wardrobe.


-Have high-quality fundamentals that fit your needs nicely and that you’ll put on so much.

-Your garments ought to replicate how beautiful you might be.

-For those who love one thing, purchase it in a number of colours.

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Episode 176 Transcript:

Emma: You’re listening to The attractive Mess Podcast, your cozy consolation pay attention. This week we’re sharing a deep dive into our expertise, of cleansing out and curating our personal closets. We’re sharing how we obtained coloration consults and study when our greatest colours are, and we’re sharing suggestions for a way we discovered a mode that felt proper for us.

Elsie: Yeah, a mode deep dive. I’m excited to do that episode, the colour seek the advice of half is new, after which the curated closet half. I really feel like we’ve been speaking about that since like episode one, but it surely actually is such an enormous a part of what I feel helped me create a closet that like the place you actually put on your stuff. Like a very powerful factor, you actually put on it, proper? 

Emma: Identical. That’s at all times the factor that I inform associates in the event that they’re like, I’m attempting to work on my private fashion. Not that anybody’s asking me for vogue recommendation, however I’m at all times like, oh, I learn this guide, it has a workbook. You are able to do one or the opposite or each, you don’t need to have learn the guide to benefit from the workbook. Individuals at all times ask that too, and Curated Closet is superior. 

Elsie: Yeah. Effectively, the factor I’ve discovered from my mother period is that even if you find yourself like, I don’t do vogue running a blog, I don’t contemplate myself a vogue particular person. I don’t actually like purchasing that a lot. I don’t actually care. You continue to put on garments on daily basis and you continue to want to be ok with your self on daily basis and it nonetheless issues. I type of don’t see a time in life when it doesn’t matter in any respect. As a result of it impacts, no less than for me, how I really feel, how snug I really feel, and I don’t know the way I current myself in public and simply every thing like that. So I feel that it’s an amazing subject for type of anybody and I had a lot enjoyable. The seek the advice of was positively like a brand new expertise. First, let’s discuss in regards to the Curated Closet slightly bit. So for anybody who doesn’t know or has by no means heard of this. We love this guide referred to as The Curated Closet, and we particularly advocate the Curated Closet workbook, which we are going to hyperlink in our present notes. It’s identical to an amazing useful resource if possibly you’ve graduated faculty or possibly you’ve turn into a mother, or one thing’s occurred to the place your life has actually modified and you’re feeling such as you’re in between, you don’t know what to do, so that you’re carrying the identical factor time and again, what’s in your closet doesn’t actually match the way in which you’re dwelling anymore. That is the individual that this guide is absolutely made for, and it occurs to all of us a number of occasions in our life. For me, I’ve at all times felt like due to our historical past of running a blog and being in footage so much and stuff, I’ve at all times felt very snug getting dressed up for images. I understand how I wanna look in images. I understand how to do my make-up, images, hair, and every thing. Being in images is simple for me. However discovering like an on a regular basis fashion that isn’t simply pajamas has at all times been very difficult for me and I’m very all or nothing. So for me, I often deal with on a regular basis garments. Yeah, like mother uniform kind of factor. After which it additionally helped me study what I’m carrying the most important proportion. She has all these workout routines within the guide like, what do you put on most days? What do you put on every now and then? And I spotted that after I first began, nearly all of my closet was form of like weblog garments. The place we don’t actually go to weblog occasions as a lot as we used to, however belongings you would put on in public at a weblog factor, simply type of loopy garments. After which the stuff we might put on in footage, which is type of loopy garments, after which stuff that we put on in our on a regular basis life, which is barely much less loopy garments. And yeah, for me I spotted that I have to spend extra on issues that I’m gonna put on 100 occasions, just like the issues I put on on a regular basis and I have to spend much less on so many outfits that I’ve worn like twice. 

Emma: Yeah. And I really wrote a weblog publish some time in the past and we’ll hyperlink it within the present notes, but it surely’s referred to as three issues I discovered from The Curated Closet. And for me, that weblog publish is type of like a fast overview synopsis of my largest takeaways from it. So if you happen to’re all in favour of that, test it out. Earlier than I learn the guide after which did the workbook, she has like plenty of challenges in there that you are able to do. Earlier than I did that, I felt like I had plenty of my closet that I used to be air quotes, saving like I by no means wore it, however I appreciated all of it. I simply didn’t ever put on it cuz it didn’t really match my actual life, it type of match this like fantasy life or this previous life, cuz we used to love work out of an workplace collectively and we had slightly staff after which ultimately we began working from residence. And I’ve labored from residence now for a very long time, like eight or 9 years and the kind of work I do is a mixture of pc work. So I’m sitting at a pc like lots of people, but in addition plenty of cooking within the kitchen and getting down low to take images and crafting and getting down low to take images. After which additionally since I grew to become a mother once more, plenty of getting down low choose up my son or various things like that, so plenty of, I don’t wanna put on yoga pants each single day. That doesn’t really feel like my fashion or snug to me. I imply, it’s snug, however I imply, it doesn’t make me really feel put collectively. For some individuals it would, for me, it doesn’t, however I spotted I had plenty of garments that simply didn’t, I wanted one thing that was extra, I don’t know if health or athletic is the proper phrase, however issues that I may transfer in much more than I actually had realized, in order that type of factor. After which I additionally grew up, I really feel like in highschool, you’ll most likely keep in mind we had a extremely tight price range, clearly like everybody does in highschool since you like work on the Greenback Tree, however I had plenty of garments that have been like issues I type of cobbled collectively from the thrift retailer. In order that they have been largely fairly wild, and that was enjoyable, however I don’t really feel like I ever discovered how to buy like actually good fundamentals that match me nicely. And that’s like most likely the primary factor that I discovered within the curated closet I used to be carrying plenty of garments that the match wasn’t proper, I wanted to get them tailor-made. Or I have to spend extra and get one thing that matches me higher as a result of possibly I purchased one thing off of a clearance rack and it didn’t fairly match me, however the value was proper. After which I ended up not carrying it so much trigger it didn’t really feel nice in it. And so it’s like, okay, you both have to get this tailor-made or you must donate it and go purchase one thing that matches you nicely, in order that type of factor. And so ever since then, each single factor in my closet I put on and I really like, and I really feel like I’ve tons, I really feel like I’ve no deficit of outfits, which feels so good, however I additionally really feel like I can prepare in like 5 minutes if I have to. And I by no means felt that manner earlier than. I felt like I didn’t really feel very put collectively, I felt like most of my closet was stuff I used to be saving, quote unquote, for an additional time and that point by no means got here. And I additionally felt prefer it really took me longer to prepare and I didn’t even really feel as put collectively as a result of I simply didn’t know what went collectively. And so now I’ve set uniforms principally. And I additionally put on plenty of jumpsuits as a result of that’s a simple one.

Elsie: Yeah, I positively have one other clean-out coming in my future however the factor that I’ve discovered probably the most from the previous, I’ve completed it a few occasions, after which generally it’s such as you do it after which a number of years go by and you must do it once more, no less than that’s how I’m. One among my coping behaviors within the early pandemic was on-line purchasing, so I feel I’ve most likely mentioned that earlier than, but it surely was, and I identical to collected plenty of garments that I nonetheless haven’t worn. So I really feel like now, it’s my job to determine what works from this unhealthy purchasing behavior that I had for a second.

Emma: Hey, it occurs to us all. I can not let you know what number of issues I assumed whereas I used to be breastfeeding. So, no disgrace man. No disgrace. 

Elsie: Yeah. To make clear, I’m not ashamed of it, however I really feel actually dangerous. Like I don’t wanna waste these items. So I wanna determine it out now. What’s going to I actually put on? After which additionally what can I move on to a good friend? Or I most likely gained’t do a web-based sale, I might positively donate. We would do an property sale once we transfer from this residence. In any case, yeah, I simply type of need to kind out all of that. However anyway, the factor I discovered previously from my cleanouts is that I type of at all times return to the identical fashion. It doesn’t matter what I feel I would like or it doesn’t matter what I’m interested in that I see different individuals carrying or what’s in fashion or no matter, I at all times return to the identical kind of look time and again and I at all times have. So I really feel like I do know now and I positively obtained this from doing all of the mini workbook sections of The Curated Closet. I do know now what my core fashion is and I simply have to remain near that and that for me is the easiest way to buy efficiently. 

Emma: The one factor I used to be gonna say, we have been speaking about shopping for stuff randomly, in the course of the pandemic and through breastfeeding, since you’re up at 4:00 AM and all that. Typically, although, I might say after doing the curated closet and the workbook and through the years, I really store so much lower than I used to, I simply are likely to spend slightly extra. I’ve like denims that I’ve been carrying now for like seven, eight years as a result of they’ve lasted me that lengthy and so they match me, I imply I clearly don’t put on ’em whereas I used to be pregnant. There was actually a time the place they didn’t match. However usually, I’ve plenty of issues now that it’s like I’ve had this a very long time and yeah, it was type of expensive after I purchased it, however now I’m seeing the advantages of shopping for issues that have been slightly bit increased high quality and match me higher. And I can say like, yeah, it’s been years now since I did the group closet and I really store so much much less, however I do are likely to spend extra. And so I feel that I’m actually pleased with that change it makes me really feel like I’m buying much less stuff. I’m not biking via issues as a result of I simply thought it was value, but it surely wasn’t really one thing that labored nicely for me. And I really feel just like the issues that I’m bringing into my home and bringing into my life and spending my cash on are staying with me for much longer, and so they’re getting much more use and that makes me actually completely satisfied.

Elsie: Yeah, that’s the purpose. That’s the final purpose. I feel shopping for issues that you realize you’re gonna put on for years is the absolute best option to store. So I positively advocate The Curated Closet to anybody who hasn’t completed it. And I feel it’s simply such course of I can’t wait to do my subsequent cleanout once more. 

Emma: Yeah, transferring is such time for that. So I’m excited for you, it’s a lot enjoyable. 

Elsie: I nonetheless additionally, I ought to point out, I nonetheless do the Marie Condominium factor too, the place you are taking every thing out and put it in a single large pile and take a look at every thing on, after which put it again in solely after you’ve tried it on. I feel that that’s a extremely good technique. I feel there’s simply one thing to it, to getting it bodily out of your closet that prefer it additionally type of forces you. For individuals like me, it forces me to not get distracted and be like, I’ll end this one other day. Attempting on garments is type of boring, and if you happen to get all of them outta your closet, you then type of need to get them again in, one thing about it really works very well. 

Emma: Yeah, I virtually really feel prefer it helps you eliminate issues that you simply possibly wanted to as a result of it’s such as you actually already took it out of your closet prefer it’s now sitting in your mattress or sitting on the ground, and so now it’s important to bodily put it again in. So it’s such as you’re actually making a choice to maintain it. Whereas if you happen to don’t really take it outta your closet, you simply stroll round your closet and resolve if you happen to wanna preserve issues or not. It’s like there’s no actual, it’s virtually like extra effort to eliminate one thing. So if you happen to’re on the fence, if you happen to’re like, I actually haven’t worn this in a yr but it surely’s cute, then it’s I’ll simply depart it hanging. It’s already hanging right here. Whereas if it’s like sitting on the ground or sitting in your mattress, it’s like, oh, I haven’t worn this in a yr and I can’t consider the following time I’ll put on it. Possibly I ought to give this to a good friend or promote it or donate it, no matter it could be.

Elsie: Sure. Okay, so subsequent up we did Colour consults with Created Colourful is the title of the corporate. So I heard about Created Colourful One Day on, you realize I love to do the Instagram Q&A’s every now and then and I did one the place somebody was like, what season are you? And I used to be like, I don’t know, however I feel I’m both an autumn or a winter is what I might guess, however I’m unsure. How have you learnt? And somebody DMed me and mentioned that they did a seek the advice of with created colourful and that it modified their life and I booked one instantly. That’s the advice, proper? Prefer it modified my life. I feel she particularly mentioned even my husband is getting his personal now, which I used to be like, oh, that’s fascinating. I don’t suppose I may get my husband to do that due to all of the selfie selfies you’ll, you’ll hear about it in a minute. There’s a lot of selfies. I used to be like, I would like one thing that’s gonna change my life. And so I went on their web site and so they say that they’ll aid you look higher in your on a regular basis garments. They choose colours that look good on you in your on a regular basis life while you’re not carrying make-up. So I used to be like offered. So I signed up for it and I assumed the expertise was so nice. So I’ll clarify slightly bit about the way it works. So first, you fill out a questionnaire after which they ask you for a sure variety of selfies. The selfies are alleged to be like, they’ve specs. They’ve slightly video that exhibits you how you can take them, however you’re like dealing with a window. They find yourself telling me it’s not likely good to have a white background. And also you maintain up totally different colours of cloth or you’ll be able to put on totally different colours of cloth. So it’s just about identical to your face, your hair pulled again, no make-up, and so they simply wanna have a look at you carrying totally different colours. So they provide you all the colours and the primary set I most likely did like. 20 or possibly 20 to 30 footage. After which on the second set, they ask you for extra particular colours as a result of they’re attempting to love slim down what works and what doesn’t work. After which I assume if you happen to didn’t do job, then it’s important to do a 3rd set. We each needed to do third units, proper? 

Emma: Yep, positive did. 

Elsie: However yeah, I used to be like, oh, there’s no manner I’m gonna need to do a 3rd set and I did. So don’t really feel dangerous if you happen to do. So I did all of these selfies. There have been so many I felt like I may see on my cellphone like a distinction. Did you’re feeling like you may type of inform a few of them have been standing out as like actually good and actually dangerous? Once you like have a look at the collage of all of them collectively in your cellphone. 

Emma: Yeah, and as soon as once more, my jumpsuits got here in very helpful as a result of I actually would identical to maintain all 10 of my jumpsuits as much as my face, and that was like most of my selfies. I had a number of different sweaters and various things that I held up. I had a sneaking suspicion for a number of years now that lavender is type of my coloration, which is bizarre as a result of I do love lavender, however I’ve by no means considered purple as my favourite coloration or a coloration that I gravitate in the direction of, and lavender’s beautiful. However till it even got here again with the squiggly eighties fashion, it actually wasn’t even one thing that was on my radar, completely. However I’ve at all times observed after I put on lavender nail polish, I actually prefer it in opposition to my pores and skin after which I’ve a type of lavender jumpsuit and this sort of lavender sweater and I’ve at all times thought I’d simply look actually good in them, although I’m like, once more, lavender I’ve by no means considered it as like my coloration. So anyway, I may type of see like from all of the selfies within the folder, I used to be like, yeah, that one type of seems like one of the best, which was my sneaking suspicion. And I used to be like, what is that this gonna imply for my coloration? So, yeah. 

Elsie: Yeah, I may too. And it’s actually fascinating while you have a look at your selfies altogether, like in your digital camera roll view, how a lot your pores and skin tones change simply by carrying totally different colours, which I didn’t actually know was potential. I didn’t perceive it in any respect earlier than doing this train, so it was very fascinating. So yeah, for my consequence, I used to be anticipating to get fall or winter and there are three totally different variations of every one. There’s like gentle, medium, and darkish I feel for every one. In order that’s even six totally different choices. What have been you anticipating to get? 

Emma: Most likely the precise reverse of what I obtained, which is humorous.

Elsie: Ooh. What have been you anticipating? 

Emma: I used to be open to no matter, however I assume I hoped for one thing type of fall. I like fall colours as a result of I like fall time, It’s my favourite season, so far as the vibes. I used to be type of hoping, I assume, for that, however once more, I had the sneaking suspicion that lavender was type of my coloration, which isn’t a fall coloration, clearly. And low and behold, after I did my three rounds of selfies, my coloration is gentle summer season. Which is the way in which that they described it, lavender is unquestionably like the colour in there. After which the way in which they described it’s it’s plenty of colours which can be cool tones so not likely heat tones ever. So even if you happen to’re carrying brown, it’s like a cool tone brown after which nothing tremendous harsh. So like as a substitute of black, I might look higher in charcoal. After which it’s additionally plenty of colours that begin with the phrase pale. So like pale yellow, pale pink, pale purple, which is lavender. So, which is humorous cuz I don’t actually consider myself as a pastel particular person. Once more, I don’t dislike them or something, I really feel like after I see garments I gravitate towards daring colours. Most likely lots of people do as a result of it’s like what stands out to your eye? However these aren’t actually the issues that look nice with my pores and skin. And though I put on make-up most days, I don’t actually put on tremendous full-coverage make-up. I put on type of lighter on a regular basis make-up is how I might describe it. So I do suppose gravitating extra in the direction of the colours that go well with me and my pure colours makes extra sense and is simply gonna spotlight my options, which you type of hit on this. However that was one factor that basically offered me as a result of Elsie obtained into this and he or she was like, you need to do it. And I used to be like, I don’t know, We’ll see. However I appreciated their web site, or possibly it was on Instagram that I noticed this, however they talked about how you can discover your proper colours, I don’t suppose they used the phrase proper. The colours for you might be extra about highlighting identical to your pure belongings, your eyes, your pores and skin, your hair, even if you happen to dye your hair, prefer it’s about highlighting you and exhibiting off who you actually are and what you actually appear to be versus hiding it or masking it up or dressing for this fantasy look, that isn’t really the way you look. It’s simply how a mannequin and {a magazine} look and also you wanna appear to be her. 

Elsie: I positively have that downside. When on-line purchasing, I’ve at all times been very influenced by the fashions and the way the fashions look, and I nonetheless even now that I do know what my colours are, and nonetheless always am gravitating in the direction of outfits which can be shot on very dark-skinned black girls as a result of I identical to how they appear. I identical to it, it simply seems good. Yeah, but when it’s a pastel then it’s gonna look dangerous on me and now I do know that. Okay, so I used to be anticipating to get fall or winter and I assumed fall as a result of I simply knew like earth tones or I’ve plenty of earth tones in my closet. I might say my closet is usually earth tones. So I felt like that does make sense as a result of it’s what I’m snug carrying and really feel good in. However in winter I’ve type of pale pores and skin and I really feel plenty of the superstar examples within the autumn have darker pores and skin or are extra like a JLo kind of particular person. And I didn’t actually relate to that, so I assumed possibly it was winter additionally as a result of I actually like carrying black and I used to be satisfied that black is one among my hottest colours, which was my largest shock. Black is on my don’t put on checklist, as in it’s not good and I’m so confused. I nonetheless type of don’t imagine it, although I settle for that it’s true.

Emma: Effectively as a result of it’s cooler. Proper? So it’s such as you’re alleged to put on hotter issues, so you need to put on a darkish, darkish brown. 

Elsie: They have been like carrying black however with a unique coloration with it. I simply love all black, however honestly, my kids look actually good. One among our daughters wears all-black outfits on a regular basis, and he or she seems actually good in them, and I ought to have identified that. I don’t have the identical coloration zone as my youngsters. So anyhow, so I obtained deep autumn, which I used to be shocked as a result of the examples while you lookup the celebrities, it’s like Eva Mendez, Julia Roberts, I simply was like, I assumed they have been odder to me than I’m. So I used to be very shocked. However total, it is smart as a result of nearly all of my closet does match inside that spectrum. And so I do suppose I used to be already form of like realizing what appeared dangerous and good. I already knew pastels look dangerous on me as a result of I’m type of the identical as my mother and he or she advised me that about herself and it’s true and it’s true for me too. Yeah, I type of already knew that. And I’ve at all times had a factor with spring purchasing my complete life the place I simply really feel like nothing seems good on me within the spring after which within the fall time, I really feel like every thing seems good on me. And now I perceive it’s not simply due to sweaters versus tank tops, it’s due to the freaking colours, duh. So now I do know that.

Emma: I additionally simply liked that we obtained principally reverse and we’re sisters and I feel in some methods we do look alike, however in different methods, I get it like our pores and skin could be very totally different. If I attempted to put on Elsie’s Basis, it might not look proper. We now have totally different pores and skin tones.

Elsie: We’ve at all times identified now we have totally different pores and skin varieties and like totally different undertones as a result of Emma has extra of a bent to look crimson. And I’ve extra of a bent to look yellow, I feel in footage.

Emma: Yeah. You have got like our mother’s pores and skin and I’ve our dad’s pores and skin. 

Elsie: Yeah, however aside from that, I feel like structurally we glance the identical, however now we have utterly totally different colours. So some individuals both suppose we glance nothing alike or, individuals have really like confused us earlier than like individuals have come as much as me and been like, “hello Emma.” So we do, I do know we do look alike, however she has blue eyes, and I’ve brown eyes. She’s at all times had gentle hair aside from that one time while you have been carrying your Elsie costume for like three months. 

Emma: Yeah, and I used to be like, this seems horrible on me. 

Elsie: Anyway, I’ve had blonde hair earlier than too, form of, and it did look horrible, objectively dangerous. Okay, I had a few colours in my report that they inspired me to put on that I wouldn’t have picked out earlier than. Like I’ve been shopping for extra issues on this form of plum coloration and I don’t know why I simply type of didn’t care about that coloration. However now that I search for it, I see it on a regular basis and it’s a simple coloration to search out and it really works for me. After which I’ve been shopping for browner, that’s not likely new or arduous. So yeah, I really feel like I’m positively gonna be capable to make my on a regular basis garments extra flattering. I don’t put on make-up on daily basis and I’m not going to. So this feels very useful. And I might say life-changing. It was positively value it, I can’t keep in mind how a lot it price, but it surely was like a hundred-something. It was positively value it for me and I might positively advocate it to a good friend. 

Emma: Yeah, and it is also simply each interplay with them, whether or not they have been asking for extra selfies or after they despatched my outcomes, they’re so candy. I felt stunning each time I open one among their emails cuz they’re identical to actually encouraging and so I positively do suppose recommending it to a good friend. You don’t have to fret that it’s gonna be this unfavourable expertise cuz I simply can just about assure it gained’t be, it’ll positively depart them feeling stunning. Which they’re, even when they’ve totally different colours than they thought, which is what occurred to me. And I additionally in my report, so the 2 issues I actually wanna share is one, they’d like a bonus coloration for me, they have been like, we observed that this char truce, which it’s this like lime inexperienced jumpsuit I’ve, they’re like, that isn’t actually within the gentle summer season spectrum, but it surely seems actually good on you. So simply so you realize, go for it with that one. And if you happen to ever have a wild card factor, and I appreciated that they have been like, Hey, you don’t have to suit into this field each single time. For those who see one thing and it’s thrilling to you and you’re feeling good in it, possibly it really works. It’s not like everyone matches in a field on a regular basis, so I actually appreciated that. After which the e-mail additionally had plenty of suggestions since you could be considering, oh, are they telling me to love throw away every thing in my closet that doesn’t match the colours? That sounds costly, and it’s like, yeah, that may be costly probably. That sounds horrible. However no, they really had plenty of suggestions for what to do while you’re carrying a coloration that’s possibly not so nice on your pores and skin and eyes, however you adore it and also you need to put on it, or it’s a sweater that’s particular to you. It’s possibly your mom gave it to you or it’s classic out of your grandma. You simply wanna put on it, it’s vital to you. The guidelines are issues to contemplate carrying like a shawl in your neck or a scarf or a hat or earrings that possibly are a extra flattering coloration for you. So issues round your face are gonna be slightly bit extra flattering. After which additionally, if you happen to simply love coloration but it surely doesn’t look nice on you, contemplate carrying it on the underside. So, skirts, pants, footwear, issues like that, tights, you realize, you may go boulder down there as a result of it’s proper by your face. There are much more suggestions than that, I’m simply type of highlighting a pair. However I simply actually appreciated that it didn’t really feel like, listed below are your colours and it’s important to match on this field now, and if you happen to put on something outdoors of it, it’s gonna look dangerous, prefer it actually wasn’t like that in any respect. It really felt very liberating. It felt extra like I used to be given course and I appreciated that. 

Elsie: Yeah, I’m glad you talked about that as a result of yeah, I did wanna say I do know a sure a part of our viewers proper now, they’re considering I don’t wanna do that as a result of I don’t wanna be advised what I can’t put on and that is a vital observe, is that I nonetheless suppose that black is one among my oddest colours and I nonetheless like and it’s on my don’t put on checklist, however I like don’t care. It’s tremendous. I feel that I simply notice that like that’s a coloration that I’m gonna put on after I’m carrying plenty of make-up and prefer it’s extra of a dressing up, going out factor for me. And with my on a regular basis garments, my sweatpants, sweatsuit, no matter, like T-shirts.Yeah, t-shirts that’s one. Pajamas, just like the stuff that you simply at all times put on with no make-up and also you simply wanna really feel good, I most likely wouldn’t choose it up once more for these. It positively doesn’t imply which you could’t put on these colours. And likewise I’m like gonna get previous all nails ’trigger it’s Easter and that’s tremendous, I don’t care. You don’t need to care about each little factor.

Emma: No, it’s extra in order for you, I don’t know. For those who simply know extra about what may look good on you. So one factor I do occasionally is love thrifting. We’ve talked about thrifting many occasions on the present, and for me, thrifting is simply type of for enjoyable. I do attempt to solely purchase issues that I’m gonna put on or use. A variety of what I purchase these days is like issues for Oscar’s fairy backyard, like little ceramics or necklaces that I’m gonna take aside for my jewellery obsession, my necklace-making passion. However I do additionally like to purchase sweaters and garments and issues. And now I simply really feel like I’ve much more course. Cuz generally you see one thing and also you’re like, oh, I feel this may match me, and I like the colour, however I don’t know if it seems nice on me. And I really feel like now I’ve simply been given like slightly permission slip of you’ll be able to depart that behind for just like the deep fall ladies, cuz that’s not you. Verify-in on the blue lavender and you realize all that. And if you wish to put on one thing that’s not your coloration, go for it, it’s no large deal. Listed below are some suggestions. That’s type of the vibe of this complete factor. However I like being artistic within a field. I like being given permission to let go of one thing. In order that’s how I view this and for me, it feels liberating and type of enjoyable. And I additionally identical to, I don’t know, sending within the selfies and it’s virtually like doing a web-based quiz in a manner. It’s simply enjoyable. Who doesn’t like to do this every now and then? 

Elsie: So have you ever completed any purchasing or any cleansing out since you bought your outcomes again? 

Emma: I haven’t completed a lot cleansing out as a result of I don’t really feel like I’ve tons of stuff that I’m like, oh, I positively gotta eliminate it. I’ve one jumpsuit that’s like principally type of a burnt orange. So you understand how large Bud, they’re smalls, however they’re barely totally different sizes. So I used to be like, all proper, this one already was slightly bit larger on me, so I used to be like, I both have to get it tailor-made and now that I notice it’s actually not my coloration, I’m like, possibly I’ll see if somebody who’s extra of a fall.

Elsie: I’ll commerce you. Really, I’d have already got it. I’ll need to verify my closet, however I’ll commerce you cuz I already began making a pile for you and it has my scorching pink jumpsuit in it. 

Emma: Yeah, we will commerce cuz this is sort of a terracotta crimson, rusty crimson. 

Elsie: Sure, I really like the new pink jumpsuit. I adore it. I adore it. I adore it. I adore it. However after I put it on, I don’t adore it now I do know why, I perceive, it is smart. It doesn’t make sense how one can have one thing that you simply love that a lot and you then put it in your physique and also you’re like, however no. Yeah. I really feel like this was like a lacking piece for us that I’m so glad now we have now. So, yeah, I’m making you slightly pile, it’s not that large cuz I actually didn’t have plenty of pastels in my closet, however I had a number of and I’ll carry them with me after I come to go to subsequent week. And yeah, we will perform a little commerce I adore it. Let’s do it. Okay, after which for the long run, I really feel like my largest change is that like I’m going to purchase like 100% of my on a regular basis fundamental garments, like my mother uniform-type stuff. I’m gonna purchase all of my colours as a result of I really feel I ought to due to college drop-off kind of conditions. I don’t put on make-up or care in any respect, like in any respect. I care lower than the least. So this can be a great way for me to look my greatest contemplating these phrases. 

Emma: Yeah, similar. If I’m spending amount of cash, so like, principally if it’s not thrifted then I’m most likely gonna stick extra with my coloration palettes at all times sooner or later. The one exception is, I’m positive I’ll put on some type of pumpkin or halloweeny factor within the fall occasionally and I don’t care. I adore it and I don’t care if it doesn’t look nice with my pores and skin, don’t matter to me, it’s Halloween. 

Elsie: Yeah, I assist that. I feel that that’s good. If I used to be advised I couldn’t put on pumpkin orange, somebody would have hell to pay. You’ll be able to’t take that away from me so that you’re dealing with it fairly nicely. 

Emma: I’m gonna want a refund as a result of I really like pumpkin

Elsie: Yeah, now we’re transferring on to a piece the place we’re gonna every do three tips on discovering your fashion, feeling good, and Yeah, if we haven’t made this clear sufficient already, it’s coming from the angle of anybody can do that and everybody ought to really feel good of their garments. It’s not like a vogue, vogue perspective as a result of we don’t have that. However I do love vogue. I’ve an appreciation for it. I wouldn’t contemplate myself a vogue particular person, although. 

Emma: I feel whether it is like meals, everyone eats and possibly everyone has to prepare dinner some, even if you happen to hate cooking you most likely need to do one thing. So it’s form of the like, nicely what do you prepare dinner on daily basis? Like what’s your on a regular basis cooking versus what if you happen to went to a Michelin star restaurant, I’m positive that you may nonetheless recognize that meals and it doesn’t imply that it’s important to prepare dinner it in your individual residence as a result of frankly, you don’t have the talents. I don’t and it’s okay to have all these totally different ranges. I really suppose that’s actually enjoyable and thrilling and that’s how I view vogue. I really like vogue. It’s so cool. Anyway, totally different ranges of vogue are superior, that’s all I used to be attempting to say. 

Elsie: So listed below are our suggestions. My first one is to take a look at the clothes, make-up, and kinds that you simply nonetheless love out of your previous images. Have a look at images from your self, like via the years, all of your totally different ages and phases, and discover the issues that also really feel traditional to you as a result of chances are high these are issues that basically work nicely for you. And likewise I simply suppose one thing from an image of me 10 years in the past that I might nonetheless put on now, which means one thing. Are you aware what I imply? Meaning one thing about like me and one thing in regards to the clothes and the fashion, it could’t simply be like a development. It’s prefer it’s unattainable, it’s nice. 

Emma: My first tip is to have high-quality fundamentals that fit your needs nicely and that you’ll put on so much. So regardless of your price range, it doesn’t matter. For those who’re like, my price range for denims is $50 or $300, no matter means prime quality to you, simply one thing that’s gonna final. And to me, a very powerful factor is that it matches you nicely. And getting issues tailor-made is definitely so much cheaper than I assumed. I feel if you happen to had agreed to get your complete closet completed, that may clearly be fairly expensive. However to get a number of fundamentals to simply fit your needs completely often actually isn’t as a lot as you may suppose if you happen to’ve by no means completed it. So discover somebody in your space who does tailoring, it’s not one thing that solely exists in New York Metropolis. I swear you will discover somebody and get it to suit your physique. You’re gonna really feel actually good in it.

Elsie: it’s extraordinarily value it. One time I did a complete bag of stuff and it was like a hundred-something. It’s not unaffordable and there are such a lot of items that they simply want slightly tweak for it to be one thing you’ll actually put on. So while you’re doing all of your clear out, you’ll be able to have the pile the place it’s like straight to the alterations after which you’ll be able to have the donate and the preserve in all of that too. I feel it’s positively value it for positive. Okay, my subsequent tip is when you’ve got clothes that you simply put on by default that makes you’re feeling dangerous about your self, let it go. Donate it, put it in a bag, and get it out of your home. I’ve had this many occasions in my life, it’s like getting right into a behavior of identical to while you dress quick, you simply put on the identical three issues or no matter. And it may not even be belongings you like, however if you happen to discover that there’s one thing that while you’re carrying it, you don’t wanna run into individuals or while you’re carrying it, you don’t wanna be in images, then that’s a factor that I might encourage changing and completely deleting out of your wardrobe. As a result of if you happen to don’t need to, why would you wanna have one thing that made you’re feeling dangerous? 

Emma: Yep, and my subsequent tip is definitely type of alongside these traces, and I don’t know if it’s a tip a lot as a pep discuss, however I simply wanna say, you might be beautiful. Precisely the way in which you might be, precisely the scale you might be, precisely the age you might be. So your wardrobe, your garments, and your make-up, if you happen to put on make-up, ought to replicate how beautiful you might be. So that you don’t have to shrink back from garments cuz you suppose, oh, if I used to be a unique measurement or if I used to be taller, I might put on that. Or so much that I hear now could be associates shall be like, I’m too previous to put on X, Y, Z, which we’re like in our late thirties or early forties, you’re not,

Elsie: I do know they don’t even know the way previous is but. 

Emma: Yeah, you don’t even know. And I don’t know, I look again now at like early twenties Emma and I want that she would’ve identical to embraced herself extra as a result of I used to be so cute and I strive to consider that. I’m like, Hey, sixties, Emma is gonna be saying that about you proper now. So embrace it, you might be cute, you might be scorching, and you might be beautiful. Put on stuff that makes you’re feeling that manner as a result of it’s true. 

Elsie: Good pep discuss, Emma. That was very nice. My subsequent one is, so I’ve slightly temper board for every thing in my complete life together with clothes. I feel it actually helps. You probably have hassle wandering out of your fashion, like that’s my downside is that if I simply see one thing that’s cute, otherwise you see one thing that appears cute on another person, I don’t know. I’ve an issue, identical to getting interested in my private deterrent is enjoyable, vibrant clothes and I’ll significantly put on it a couple of times. Like I simply don’t put on clothes like that time and again, over the way in which I do different issues. So I’ve to maintain myself centered away from it. And it’s not like I can’t ever put on it, however I’m attempting to not, positively attempting not to spend so much on clothes like that anymore. Anyway, so I’ve my little temper board and it’s identical to footage of outfits I like, like individuals from Pinterest, just a bit collage and preserve it in your cellphone and remind your self while you’re unsure about a purchase order or no matter. I feel it’s a great way to be like, oh yeah, that is how I’m attempting to decorate, that is how I need to gown.

Emma: Yep, I really like that. It’s like a cheat sheet. Okay. And my third tip is if you happen to love one thing, purchase it in a number of colours that be just right for you. However if you happen to love one thing, that is one thing that we stole from our grandma and I type of used to suppose she was type of dorky for doing this, and now I 100% do it and I get it and he or she was proper. 

Elsie: I by no means thought that, I at all times thought she was cool. Her closet I’m gonna describe them. One coloured, type of like a gown that Ms. Frizzle wears. One coloured cotton shirt gown has a coloration and midline sleeves and it goes down beneath the knee and it has an identical belt. And she or he had that gown in like the entire rainbow. After which she had footwear, like pumps in the entire rainbow to match them. And I at all times thought it was the good factor about our grandma, it was her trainer uniform. Yeah, she was a trainer. And Emma is rather like her.

Emma: However jumpsuits. That’s just like the model. So yeah, if you happen to love one thing, if you happen to’re like, wow, this sweater matches me very well, or, oh, I at all times, you realize, put on this pair of denims, they match me nicely. Effectively, if they’ve it in one other wash possibly get that. Additionally, when one thing wears out, like an amazing pair of footwear and you’ll’t resell them, or an amazing pair of denims, they’ve gotten too many holes, no matter, don’t really feel like it’s important to change it up if you happen to don’t need to. You’ll be able to actually simply change it with the identical factor once more, no disgrace in that. So if you happen to discover one thing that’s working for you and also you adore it, embrace it. 

Elsie: That’s true. I feel that that’s actually good recommendation, Em. So many garments do are available many alternative colours too, which is sweet. 

Emma: Yeah, simply slight variations and it’s not even a lot. I accomplish that a lot laundry having a toddler and I solely have one child. I don’t even know what individuals are doing with 2, 3, or 4 youngsters. 

Elsie: You don’t wanna know the way a lot totally different it’s with two youngsters. 

Emma: So generally it’s simply having barely totally different colours. You additionally may simply purchase the very same coloration, simply so you could have a number of, so that you don’t really feel like it’s important to do laundry on daily basis as a result of I get that too. Go for it, do what you must do. 

Elsie: I adore it. I hope this episode was useful. We actually, actually really feel obsessed with this topic, vogue is for everybody. And if you happen to learn Curated Closet, if you happen to do the workbook, if you happen to do the Colour seek the advice of, ship us your expertise and your outcomes as a result of we simply wanna hear about it. It’s enjoyable for us and we’re . So thanks a lot for listening, and I assume I’m simply going to move the baton now to Nova for our well-known section, A Joke and a Truth with Nova. All proper, I’ve Nova right here, Nova this week. Do you could have a joke for us or a reality?

Nova: A reality. 

Elsie: Okay. What’s the very fact? 

Nova: Do you know that like within the solar, greater than one million Earths may slot in it? 

Elsie: Actually? Inside the solar, greater than one million? That seems like so much. Superior reality. Thanks.